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5 Ways to Handle Disappointment

I love and hate, anticipation. Truthfully, on the one hand anticipation keeps us moving forward while on the other hand it can leave us disappointed if not handled well.

We all anticipate the future. Some of us anticipate the best (hello optimists) while others anticipate the worst (hello pessimists)! And then there are the realists which are really just pessimists in disguise. Can you tell I am an optimist?

We all know what it is to anticipate something and have it not happen. Whether it was a job we wanted to get, a relationship we saw panning out, a promotion coming our way, or a diagnoses from the doctor going differently than anticipated, we all have had to deal with disappointment. And if you haven’t yet wait a few years, heck wait a couple of days. At some point in time we all deal with disappointment.

So, here are 5 healthy ways to deal with disappointment:

  1. Trust in the Lord

When we navigate disappointment for many of us we arrive in one of two places. Either we are going to trust ourselves, our strength, and our wisdom, or we are going to trust the Lord. The Bible says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding…” When your disappointed you must lean into Him. You and I will fail. People will fail you. Church won’t always handle it perfect. The only one who won’t fail you’s name is Jesus.

2. Learn from each disappointment

You must keep yourself in a constant state of learning. This is generally a good posture for life but in this instance is a must. Learn about yourself. Learn about the situation. Learn about others. Learn about God. In general be looking to learn especially in disappointment so that you can make better decisions next time around when you begin to anticipate again. If you don’t learn you are doomed to repeat your disappointment. Learning is the only way out!

3. Gain Perspective

This isn’t just about learning a few things but about changing your position. When most folks are disappointed they allow it to drag them down. They will sulk or be frustrated and it positions them poorly. When you go through a disappointing time or season you need to learn to allow that to elevate you and not drag you down. It is in climbing higher that you will gain a new perspective on your life, that situation, or that circumstance. The Bible says, “Those who wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength. They will mount up on wings like eagles…” Eagles soar high and have a different perspective than other animals, even other birds. Allow disappointment to be the air under your wings to carry you to a new perspective!

4. Guard Your Heart

Too many folks get wounded permantely by disappointment and they make all of their future decisions from a place of fear. I have met people that never try anything new again because one time they took a risk and fell flat on their face. They have been there, done that, bought the t-shirt, and earned the scars to prove it. They were married once before and it didn’t work out so they vow to never get married again. They got turned down from a promotion and felt rejected so they settle for the job they have. Too many have resolved to never risk ever again and believe that somehow that will keep them from being disappointed ever again.

The Bible says simply, “Guard your heart. Out of it flow all the issues of life” Don’t allow one situation or circumstance to wound you so deeply that you never dare try anything great again. Guard your heart from disappointment.

5. Manage Expectations

This is huge. This doesn’t mean lower your expectations or even “play and prepare to lose”. NO! This is all about going in prepared and anticipating with realistic expectations. What I mean by this is: If I am going to square off against Bubba Watson in golf I can anticipate and prepare to win but unless he breaks his leg and plays one handed he is going to beat me. He plays golf everyday for a living and is one of the best in the world. I need to manage my expectations in this instance because I have not paid the price he has paid on the driving range, practice green, or on the golf course. It is foolish for me to believe I will win. I could manage my expectation from “I am going to win” to “I am going to play golf with one of the best in the world and will learn all that I can”.

Now to flip that illustration. It is not unrealistic for me to anticipate winning at just about anything with my kids. They are all under 6 and don’t have coordination to keep up with me any way. Just kidding but you get the point. But seriously I will beat them. Lol.

How do you deal with disappointment or was there a time in your life where you were disappointed? I’d love to hear about it. Comment below and let me know.

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4 Enemies of Change

Happy New Year!! 2016 is here in a matter of a few hours and there are a ton of blogs and articles floating around talking about resolutions to make. With all the desire to change I converted a sermon I preached entitled  “4 enemies of change” into a blog post. Our greatest struggle is usually not the information or the desire but that we run into these enemies along the way that keep us from changing.

We may never admit this but we all know this to be true: Change is inevitable. You either change intentionally or you change because of inertia. The only thing you can really count on is you never stay the same.

Even our bodies are constantly changing whether intentionally through feeding them the right food and going to the gym or not. Our body will change. Some of us don’t like the changes you see. My wife attempts to point out a new grey hair each week.

If you have children you know this to be true and a part of life. I have been watching rapid physical growth of Charlotte, Graham, and Ben. They are inches taller, pounds heavier, and getting smarter and smarter each day.

At the beginning of the Bible the God of heaven introduces himself as a creator. He is the ultimate change agent. He begins by speaking and creating something into nothing. Then in the next chapter he begins to “form” things out of the dirt. He forms man from the dust of the ground.

At the heart of the gospel message is the idea of “change”. That through Jesus’ sacrifice your life can change forever and you can become a “new creation”.

Change is part of what we do. It’s built in physically and it’s built in to God’s plan spiritually. God is always placing us in a constant state of change and you can fight against the change or you can fight with the change. And as many of us know change is never cheap or easy and always comes at a price.

Change is a part of our system. Change is a part of God’s plan. And where there is something good for us there are also some pit falls or enemies of change.

Here are the 4 enemies of change:

  1. Comfort

Comfort is one of the biggest enemies of change. It keeps more people from stepping up and doing what will make them better in their life.

We like where we are. It’s what keeps you in bed as you hit the snooze button one more time, makes you skip the gym one more time, or avoid that awkward conversation you know you need to have. You are comfortable.

And Change requires us to be uncomfortable. Outside of what is normal. You can’t do the same thing over and over and expect a change. You must do something new.

Psychologist tell us the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results, expecting a change.

It’s a new year and a new year requires a change. We have to change. Try something new. Take a risk. The one thing we can’t do is stay where we are. We can’t stay comfortable.

We often associate being comfortable with something as a good thing but sometimes when you are around something or someone enough they lose their position in your mind.

I will never forget in high school when I thought my mom and I were cool. She was my friend. I was very comfortable with her. I forget where we were but I called her by her name, Sueann, and in that moment I had done it. She was no longer Mom. I had become overly familiar and she lost her place. She lost her value. She didn’t lose it for very long because in moments she was saying, “Excuse me? What did you say? I am your mother no matter how old you get and don’t you forget it” Point taken…

And now I am a parent and have had Charlotte do it to me 🙂

This plays out sometimes in marriage. You overlook something important to your spouse and even though you never say it the thought that runs through your mind is, “it’s just my wife” or “it’s just my husband”…they lost all of their value because you have become to comfortable with them.

We have a tendency to do this with lots of different people. We don’t offer the respect of mr. and mrs. or ma’am and sir because that isn’t cool anymore and we all want to be comfortable with each other.

We do this with pastors, coaches, or your boss. It’s no longer “pastor” it becomes “that’s just so and so”. It’s no longer “your boss” but “that’s just Cindy or that’s just Tom”

You devalue the person because you are to close.

You get the point. There is a story in scripture where we see a man get to comfortable with God and God kills him!

This story takes place in two pieces and over 40 years. Notice the ark was placed in Uzzah’s father’s house and spent a long time there.

2 Samuel 6:2-7

“He and all his men set out from Baalah of Judah to bring up from there the ark of God, which is called by the Name, the name of the Lord Almighty, who is enthroned between the cherubim that are on the ark. They set the ark of God on a new cart and brought it from the house of Abinadab, which was on the hill. Uzzah and Ahio, sons of Abinadab, were guiding the new cart with the ark of God on it, and Ahio was walking in front of it. David and the whole house of Israel were celebrating with all their might before the Lord, with songs and with harps, lyres, tambourines, sistrums and cymbals. When they came to the threshing floor of Nacon, Uzzah reached out and took hold of the ark of God, because the oxen stumbled. The Lord’s anger burned against Uzzah because of his irreverent act; therefore God struck him down and he died there beside the ark of God.”

1 Samuel 7:1-2

“So the men of Kiriath Jearim came and took up the ark of the Lord. They took it to Abinadab’s house on the hill and consecrated Eleazar his son to guard the ark of the Lord. It was a long time, twenty years in all, that the ark remained at Kiriath Jearim, and all the people of Israel mourned and sought after the Lord.”

He had the Ark in his home for years. He thought it’s just a big piece of furniture. There is nothing to this after all it has been sitting in my living room for the last 40 years. What is the big deal? God killed him for being irreverent. God had been dethroned in Uzzah’s heart.

He had gotten so comfortable that the one thing in his life designed to change it no longer could. There is a deeper more harsh lesson in here too: if you don’t change you die!

Our comfort is an enemy of change.

2. Complacency

Our culture is buried in complacency and indifference. We just don’t care anymore. We used to be willing to give our lives to causes we believed in. Any more if it doesn’t fit into our already overbooked lives we just don’t have any time.

We have grown so complacent that in order for us to go on with life we have to either ignore the facts or lie to ourselves.

Amos 6:1-7 (NIV)

“Woe to you who are complacent in Zion,
 and to you who feel secure on Mount Samaria, 
you notable men of the foremost nation,
 to whom the people of Israel come!

Go to Kalneh and look at it;
 go from there to great Hamath,
 and then go down to Gath in Philistia.
Are they better off than your two kingdoms?
 Is their land larger than yours? You put off the day of disaster
 and bring near a reign of terror.

You lie on beds adorned with ivory
 and lounge on your couches.
You dine on choice lambs
 and fattened calves. You strum away on your harps like David
 and improvise on musical instruments. You drink wine by the bowlful
 and use the finest lotions,
 but you do not grieve over the ruin of Joseph. Therefore you will be among the first to go into exile;
 your feasting and lounging will end.”

We don’t grieve any more over lost people. We are not pained to grow more into the image of Christ. We have created slogans and bumperstickers so that we can feel good about living a complacent life.

When is the last time we wept over our city? When is the last time you were so burdened for someone you had to share the gospel with them?

The problem with most of the church is we have eaten to much and fought to little. We have been enjoying the spoils of living in a prosperous nation and it has made us complacent…indifferent.

Watch how God fixes complacency. He fixes it with exile. He takes them off into slavery because when we become so comfortable in our victory and prosperity that you forget where it comes from God is going to put you into a situation where you desperately need him again.

There must be a sense of urgency to do the will of God. A mandate from heaven that we will sacrifice, run after, do everything we can to achieve it.

A conservative estimate is that close to 4,000 churches across America will close their doors this year. A majority of churches are declining in numbers. Are we so complacent and indifferent that we would rather close our doors than change?

Practically you see this all the time with people and their health. No one makes any dietary changes or creates exercise habits until the dr wants to start them on medication or they have a serious health issue.

Complacency kills change!

3. Conflict (Unhealthy)

Unhealthy conflict is the type of conflict where two views set up opposite of one another without a willingness to compromise or move within agreement on a principle. Think our current political climate of Democrats vs Republicans. Both parties “want the best for the country” but disagree about how to get there and neither are willing to do anything worth while to move us forward unless they are steam rolling the other side.

Unhealthy conflict divides while healthy conflict creates and innovates.

If we get caught up in unhealthy conflict we will not change the world.

We see this in our marriages all the time…you spend 30 minutes arguing over something that takes 10 minutes to do. The conflict kept you from acting.

Unhealthy conflict whether by distraction or frustration will keep you from changing your life. It keeps you focused on winning a battle all the while you continue losing the war.

Unhealthy conflict keeps you focused on small picture and tangents.

Proverbs gives us some great wisdom when it comes to conflict.

Proverbs 10:12 says, “Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs.”

Proverbs 15:18 says, “A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.”

Proverbs 16:28 says, “A perverse person stirs up conflict, and gossip separates close friends.”

An unhealthy conflict is an enemy to change.

 

4. Cowardice

It causes us to shy away because we don’t know what will happen. It takes lots of courage to change.

Cowardice keeps us feeling helpless and with a victim mentality. Coward’s are afraid of change. We must embrace it.

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” (2 Timothy 1:7 NKJV)

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I realize many of you are making resolutions that you may or may not keep. One of the reasons could be one of the four enemies of change. Look out for them as you enter 2016! Happy New Year!

Book Review: How to win at the Sport of Business by Mark Cuban

Absolutely, loved Mark Cuban’s book How to win at the Sport of Business. I found his personal story inspiring and there were truly some nuggets and themes through out the book that anyone could apply to their life whether you are in business or not.

What I liked about the book:

  1. It was short and sweet and you could read it all in one sitting.
  2. It was a collection of blogs and individual thoughts that were no longer than a few pages. It made it simple and straight forward.
  3. It wasn’t just a book of principles, although it had them. It wasn’t just a book of stories, although it had them. It wrapped the principles in flesh and blood that you could connect with. I found myself saying, “I could do that.” or “Me too”.

What didn’t I like:

  1. I wanted more. The principles, the nuggets, and the stories were good but just about the time I was ramped up and totally into it, it was done.

What I learned:

Overall there were some prevailing themes even though each chapter was on a different principle. Here are the two nuggets that stuck out to me:

“You only have to be right once”

Mark, uses his own personal stories of failure to reassure you to keep trying cause you only have to be right once. He told stories of businesses that failed. He told stories of jobs he was fired from. It all led him to a place where he was going to start a business and work for himself selling software. He failed a bunch but was right once. Don’t give up cause you tried and it didn’t work. Get out there and take another swing.

“Hustle”

Mark, talks about how all through out his life and even now as a successful billionaire he still has to hustle. The sentiment comes to mind where you might not be the smartest, fastest, greatest, at anything but you can work harder than the guy next to you. You can get up earlier, stay up later, read more, and out work him. The best example in the book was Mark’s first job selling computer software. He basically gets a job selling something he knew very little about. He then reads all of the manuals, teaches himself how to install it, trouble shoot it, and eventual knows more than most everyone who works in the store. Not because he had the degrees in computers. Not because of anything other than he out hustled everyone else.

With that said, I totally recommend this book and you can pick up your copy on amazon.

 

Do It Afraid

Recently, as we have been learning to juggle 3 kids I have gotten to spend a bit of one on one time with my oldest, Charlotte.

She has struggled in recent months with her self confidence and being extremely fearful. It was terribly sad to watch because it caused her to miss out on some awesome experiences.

We really began to notice a shift in her when it came to big boys. Any boy a little bit bigger than her was terrifying for her to be around. It all went back to one experience in a bounce house where a bigger boy fell on her. After that day she wouldn’t go in the same room with big boys, she would cry, and it got to the point where it was completely irrational. It took time, facing her fears, positioning her again and again to realize that not all big boys are scary because you had one bad experience.

During that same span of time we had a daddy daughter date at Chick-Fil-A. We love Chick-Fil-A. On this day we went to the one in the mall. We got our food and sat down to eat. I looked accross at Charlotte and her eyes were wide like saucers and she was terrified. I looked over my shoulder and there was no one at the table behind me. Then I looked over my other shoulder and there it was…the Chick-Fil-A, 8 foot tall, mutant cow. Charlotte was eating her nuggets in between tears. It was so sad. I cleaned up our table and we went to leave. As we walked away, Charlotte eyes were fixed on the cow to the point she was tripping over her own feet and walking backwards.

These two experiences with my four year old reminded me of how silly I look like, that we look like, when we live in fear of something. When we are afraid we make irrational decisions, are led by our emotions, are blinded to where we are going, and usually stumble. It doesn’t matter if it is heights or bugs, two of my biggest fears. They are silly and irrational fears. They cause me to miss out and sometimes stumble or be led by my emotions.

The Bible has a lot to say about fear. It says “Don’t be afraid” or “Fear Not” 365 times in scripture. Once for everyday of the year.

The Bible actually tells us fear is not from God. “God didn’t give you a spirit of fear…”

If the Bible doesn’t want us to be afraid, fear doesn’t come from God, and most fears are irrational and silly, what are we to do? Cause everyone is afraid of something.

You practice courage and you do it afraid. You do it anyway. You step up. You step out. You take a swing. You try. And try again and again.

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” – Wayne Gretzky

Fear only ever keeps you from doing and the only way to conquer it is to do that which you are afraid of.

Recently, I overcame a fear by doing it.

Now, I am not a fan of fast things. Roller coasters, cars, bikes, etc… Modes of transportation are for just that, getting me safely from point A to point B. I am not a daredevil. That stuff scares me. So, I miss out on a lot of fun stuff.

I went four-wheeling! I know some of you are thinking big deal you wimp. It was a big deal. I have been offered many times before and never went. I didn’t want to go fast, what if I got hurt, etc…

We had friends in from NJ and we were offered to go four-wheeling. I reluctantly said I would take them hoping I wouldn’t have to actually ride it. When we arrived I was given the demo on how to use the four wheeler, told I was in charge, and then showed the lay of the land. I was terrified. Everything in me wanted to let them take the four-wheelers out and just relax on the farm that day. But I couldn’t…my daughter was with me and was begging for Daddy to take her for a ride. So, I sucked it up and did it anyway.

My buddy John took me out so I could get a feel and see where all the boundaries were. I took it nice and easy and thought this isn’t so bad. Then I faced my first hill. No one told me that you should lean forward and apply steady acceleration. It was a small hill but that didn’t matter. I went up and fell off the back of the four wheeler right on my butt. Thank God the four wheeler went forward and didn’t fall back on me. My worse fear had happened and guess what…it wasn’t so bad after all. Sure my butt hurt for a few days but when I got back and picked up Charlotte we rode and rode. She screamed, “Faster, Daddy!”

I had so much fun! I did it anyway.

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Now not all fears are this fun to overcome I understand but the point still remains, “Fear only keeps you from doing”. The only way to overcome is to do it.

Fear of public speaking means time to write and present a speech at work, church, or an open mic night at a coffee shop.

Fear of meeting new people means it’s time to head to a mall, coffee shop, bar, sporting event, somewhere you can meet new people. Heck go speed dating just to break the fear in your life.

Whatever your fear. Do it afraid.

Please comment below or message me about your fear. What are you afraid of and what are you going to do to overcome it? What fears have you already overcome and how did you do it?

 

I’m Back…

After spending the last 3 to 4 months with a new born and helping my wife with all three kiddos, I am back. I will be hitting the ground running with several new posts as well as the release of my first ebook devotionals soon.

Thanks for your patience…God Bless!

Family

Over the last few weeks I have gotten to enjoy the birth of my son Ben. And with the new addition to the family came the love, help, and visits from family. I am so grateful for family as they have allowed my wife and I to transition from Man to Man defense with 2 kids to Zone defense. (Yes it really all does come back to sports with me)

One thing that I learned over this period of time or perhaps remembered is that there are really three different types of family in your life. And you truly need all three.

Blood Family

First you obviously have your blood family. For some of us that is a good thing and some of us that is a bad thing. Some of us don’t like the family we were born into and others of us love them. Here is the deal with blood family. You might be able to distance yourself relationally and geographically but you can never get rid of them entirely. Every time you look in the mirror they are staring back at you. They are a part of you for better or for worse.

In my case I love my family. No we aren’t perfect. Yes they can be annoying. And Yes we have made tons of mistakes. But I miss my family a ton. My parents and brother Dan are 6 hours away in NJ. My brother Don, his wife Sarah, and their son Levi are 14 hours away in Atlanta. So when they come for a visit I want to spend as much time with them as I can. Below is a picture of my family.

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My mom has been here this week getting in some serious grand baby time. She got to meet her 4th grandchild and has been hanging out with my 3 kids all week. She got to take Charlotte to the fair and enjoy some one on one time. After all she had to wait 26 years to have a girl! It is the best! Here is a pic of them on the Ferris Wheel.

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These relationships are crucial for myself and my kids. They let my kids know they are part of a legacy. They have something larger to live for then just themselves. Having parents and grandparents in your life gives you a source of wisdom that is important as you grow. Families were designed to be multigenerational. You see it all throughout the Bible and secular history. When you remove the older generations from the younger generation geographically or relationally it short circuits God’s design for family. So do yourself a favor and pick up the phone and call your parents or grandparents. Do it right now. Don’t even finish reading this. They miss you. They really do. Call right now.

Extended Family

Now that you have made your phone call let me tell you about the second family that you have. You have your extended family. I am married to my wife, Sam, and all of her family became my family when I did. I picked up a second mom and dad, two more brothers, and a sister. I also got a bonus with all of this too. I picked up two more sisters as Sam’s brothers are married and another Brother last September when Sam’s sis married her husband. (Happy 1 year Anniversary Andy & Melissa!) I also have the huge blessing of having a nephew and niece too. Below is my crazy extended family!

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Just like my family, I love when they come for visits. It is so refreshing and enjoyable. We laugh a lot cause my wife’s family is crazy fun! They love on us, on my kids, and bring a genuine warmth to our home when they are here.

Recently, Sam’s sister came for a week and got to be here for the birth of our son, Ben. It was truly special to have her here for that week and to be in the delivery room with us. An experience I am sure she will truly never forget. Then Sam’s mom came and got to meet her 5th grand child. She was such a big help for my wife, myself, kids, and around the house. She is a gem. Below is a picture of her and Ben.

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Your extended family that you married into is just as important as your blood family. First of all, don’t complain about them because you picked them! Their personalities and quirks make your family richer. Your children and your spouse need you to love, work on relationships with, and to enjoy their family like you enjoy your own. So, if you don’t like them get over yourself. Try something new and send everyone a card, just because. Or if you are close enough call one of them up and taking them for a coffee. Whatever you do don’t neglect your extended family.

Church Family

The last family that I got to experience over these last few weeks was my church family. Everyone from Bridge of Hope that came to the hospital, cooked meals for us, sent us cards and gifts, and loved on us are so special. Thank You! Church family is so important, especially for us because we are hours and miles away from blood or extended family. They become extensions of our parents and grandparents to us. We are so thankful for them. Below is a picture of some of them praying for our students and teachers at a recent service before they head back to school.

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Your church family is important because they will be there in your happiest moments and your darkest moments. They are the folks that will go to war for you in prayer. They are the ones that bring you meals when your sick or down. They come visit you in the hospital. A Church is supposed to be a family. If you aren’t a part of a church family you need to be. It is vital to your success and growth as a person as well as your family!

Family is vital to each and everyone of us whether we are talking about our blood family, extended family, or church family. You need them and they need you.

Top 10 Places I want to visit in the USA

Everyone loves a good top 10 list and this is one I have had as a note in my phone for a bit. Here are my top 10 places I want to visit in the USA that I have never been. These are in no particular order…

1. Chicago 

 One of the few major cities I have never been to. I want to experience the culture, food, Wrigley & Soldier Field, as well as the many other iconic sights in the city. Now that I am in Ohio this is a drivable trip so this may happen sooner rather than later. 

2. Grand Canyon

 
Can’t pass up a chance to see God’s beautiful creation like this. I would love to get to see it up close and personal. Now, I am not into heights or white water rafting but horse back riding or camping in the canyon would be extraordinary. If nothing else I want to see it. 
3. Hawaii

 Truthfully, this is a trip I want to take with one person and one person only…my wife. Maybe for our 10 year or 15 year anniversary. I want to head to a beautiful 5 star resort, swim in a pool, swim in the Ocean, and eat some expensive food. I also want to experience some Hawaiin culture. Definitely want to go to a luau and eat some spam!

4. Los Angeles

 LA sometimes gets a bad wrap on the east coast but it makes my top 10. I would love to get to visit Beverly Hills to shop, Hollywood to check out the stars on the ground, the beaches, and beautiful California sunshine. I want to go to in and out burger as well. And there are some churches I want to hit up while I am there not least of which would be Hillsong LA and the Dream Center. 

5. Seattle

 I don’t think I am cool enough for this trip but am certain it would be a blast anyway! I would love to catch a fish thrown at the market, go to the original Starbucks, and visit the space needle. But a huge draw for me is one of my favorite preachers, Judah Smith, his church is in Seattle and I would have to attend a Sunday he was preaching. 

6. Baton Rouge

 This is a different experience that you can’t have anywhere else in the country. The French quarter! The architecture, the food, the history, the city and country side are so unique. I have never had crawfish and there is not better place to have them then Louisianna!

7. Boston

 Does it get any better in terms of history? Maybe Philly but Boston is still a must on my list. I want to head to Fenway, see some of the colonial era history, check out some museums, and take in the city. I would also love to visit Harvard and my cousin at MIT. This trip will be “wicked hardcore” (I just said that in my best Matt Damon accent from Good Will Hunting).

8. Minneapolis 

 This destination is selfish for me. I want to visit Andy and Melissa (my bro & sis in law) and see where they call home. I’d love to venture into the state fair, experience the city, and all but I would also like to experience some of the natural beauty the state has to offer and maybe camp for a weekend, too.

9. San Diego

 This trip would offer authentic Mexican cuisine, beautiful beaches, and gorgeous weather. You could go cultural/city or beach resort or both on this trip. San Diego Zoo is a must see attraction while we are here. 

10. Texas

 Everything is bigger in Texas and I am not sure where to start. I definitely want to see a few of the major cities from Dallas to Houston to San Antonio to Austin. Each city is so different this may take multiple trips. I definitely want to grab some Texas BBQ and have the chance to see some real cowboys. I also need to take in some history and have a must stop at the Alamo. 

That was my list and I can’t wait to check one of these off my list soon. 

Please, comment below and share the places in the USA that you have never been that make it on to your top 10 list.